Remember me. What do you see as being unconsidered, on principle, in the Vanilla paradigm? Paper on the difficulties facing "vanilla partners". Interesting post and a great read, thanks for sharing you thoughts. They know they're doing something that's edgy, dangerous and which comes with the risk of them getting assaulted in ways they weren't looking for, raped for real or even killed. There are plenty of other ways to keep a relationship and sex life interesting though.
I'm not knocking gurus go ahead and listen to Eckhart Tolle cassettes if that's what gets you offbut gurus and guruing aren't for me.
When It Comes to 'Vanilla Sex,' No Two People Taste the Same Flavor
It just terrifies me that the result of people being shy where it comes to just talking about a topic is that it opens the door to so many people getting hurt. Lifestyles and Relationships Search In. Gotta have connection with communication and romance even in relationship. My impression both from what you say, and also from Relevant Personal Experience as the person being asked to do such things is that the fear of "asking for what you want" or even "asking for what you'd like to try a little bit to find out if you like it" is sufficiently strong for some many? I will put it this way for you.